Life is full of distractions.
Some hopeful, some useless..and others everywhere in between.
To make it through this life.. you allow distractions..sometimes welcome them .. something to help take your mind off the things that hurt, or when you make the realization that you were not meant to have that which you desire, less painful. The distraction you allow is never meant to fulfill or replace what it takes you from.
It can take over your future if you let it..you need to be aware what it is and what purpose it has in your life. If not the distraction could lead you down an empty road..and leave you there. If you accept that it is a distraction..one you let into your life to help...on the condition that it is for right now..that realization is worth what ever temporary help it gives. You just have to be mindful that the distractio. Should not replace one grief with another.. one pain with a greater or lesser pain. That is not the purpose of helpful distraction.
We can get lost in our pain.. we can get so used to it it becomes a comfort.. and then we seek it out ..we can find distractions that hurt..because we are comfortable with pain..we don't enjoy it but it is familiar..the absence of pain..or hurt..we are lost..because it has been the norm in our life for so long..the absence of pain does not feel right..
We don't always look for more pain..or a replacement pain..but we accept it easier than it's opposite. Then the distraction becomes a partial replacement for the source of our pain.. it is welcomed..and the things that feel good and right..are ignored and held at arms length. . Out of fear..and because it does not feel right anymore.
The more we do this..the easier it gets..and it takes an epiphany moment to realize what you have pushed away.. we hope it isn't to late.. you can also get used to pushing away what you really need..because the distractions make it easier..
They are still distractions and you realize this.. but.. the hurt is less noticable.. you are not happy..you just know your sadness is hidden and less noticeable to everyone but you.
Sometimes the distractions help a lot..
Sometimes we realize the destructive or seductive nature of the distraction and replace it with something different.. or we try to appear that what we need is not what we want.. and deserve.. and the distraction is harmless..and keeps us motivated to get out of bed every day..even when we don't want to.
What we have to do. Is identify the distraction.. remember that it is such and keep our eyes open .. because .. someday we won't need the distraction..but need what is there for us..
Somethings..meaningful things .. are not distractions..but the thing we need.
No excuses..because we know it is what we need.
Everyone we trust knows it to be..
We just cannot trust ourselves to go beyond the distraction. .we sometimes don't feel worthy of anything but things that have no future..because the future scares us..because our past hurt so much. The pain never goes. We feel we are no longer capable of happy for us...or deserving.
We were meant to be happy. Find happy when we are not.
Our happy makes those that care for us happy. In turn we are happier too.
Don't we just want to make the ones we love happy??
Some will only be happy when you are happy too.
Identify your distractions.. rate them..
You know you have done that already.. you have let go distractions that have no meaning.. they served their purpose..and were discarded when they were no longer useful..or created possible conflict.. gone.. justifiably..
Somethings we tried to let go..to prevent other issues..just to realize..
But ..now wondering if it can ever be what it was before we decided it was easier .. just to see..
Nothing has changed..except new acceptance. . Shocking!!!
People can change their mind..after seeing the facts..
No..not a distraction...much more than that.
Now..can you see.. can you accept?
Some people don't let change disrupt good relationships.
Usually that is a good thing.
Search out those that will help you..
Those that will remind you of your worth.
Your value.
Many see it..few will make you see it.
Most are distracted..
You need to see the reality verses the dream..
Yes..we all know the reality. Most choose the dream..
Some have no choice..the reality is everyday..and they accept any distraction to remove them from it..
The reality is the pain is real.
The pain can help define us.
It can weaken or strengthen us.
We can let people in that will help us not distract..
Well..maybe for a few minutes..but you will know those that wish to just distract and those that truly know and want to help..
Just open your eyes and heart. .
Even the young do this.. and they can see sincerity, when its real.
Sometimes they will accept it..
All this..is a reminder not to be so distracted that you overlook the ones that really care and can help.
It is a struggle we all face.
R 5/18/17
Some hopeful, some useless..and others everywhere in between.
To make it through this life.. you allow distractions..sometimes welcome them .. something to help take your mind off the things that hurt, or when you make the realization that you were not meant to have that which you desire, less painful. The distraction you allow is never meant to fulfill or replace what it takes you from.
It can take over your future if you let it..you need to be aware what it is and what purpose it has in your life. If not the distraction could lead you down an empty road..and leave you there. If you accept that it is a distraction..one you let into your life to help...on the condition that it is for right now..that realization is worth what ever temporary help it gives. You just have to be mindful that the distractio. Should not replace one grief with another.. one pain with a greater or lesser pain. That is not the purpose of helpful distraction.
We can get lost in our pain.. we can get so used to it it becomes a comfort.. and then we seek it out ..we can find distractions that hurt..because we are comfortable with pain..we don't enjoy it but it is familiar..the absence of pain..or hurt..we are lost..because it has been the norm in our life for so long..the absence of pain does not feel right..
We don't always look for more pain..or a replacement pain..but we accept it easier than it's opposite. Then the distraction becomes a partial replacement for the source of our pain.. it is welcomed..and the things that feel good and right..are ignored and held at arms length. . Out of fear..and because it does not feel right anymore.
The more we do this..the easier it gets..and it takes an epiphany moment to realize what you have pushed away.. we hope it isn't to late.. you can also get used to pushing away what you really need..because the distractions make it easier..
They are still distractions and you realize this.. but.. the hurt is less noticable.. you are not happy..you just know your sadness is hidden and less noticeable to everyone but you.
Sometimes the distractions help a lot..
Sometimes we realize the destructive or seductive nature of the distraction and replace it with something different.. or we try to appear that what we need is not what we want.. and deserve.. and the distraction is harmless..and keeps us motivated to get out of bed every day..even when we don't want to.
What we have to do. Is identify the distraction.. remember that it is such and keep our eyes open .. because .. someday we won't need the distraction..but need what is there for us..
Somethings..meaningful things .. are not distractions..but the thing we need.
No excuses..because we know it is what we need.
Everyone we trust knows it to be..
We just cannot trust ourselves to go beyond the distraction. .we sometimes don't feel worthy of anything but things that have no future..because the future scares us..because our past hurt so much. The pain never goes. We feel we are no longer capable of happy for us...or deserving.
We were meant to be happy. Find happy when we are not.
Our happy makes those that care for us happy. In turn we are happier too.
Don't we just want to make the ones we love happy??
Some will only be happy when you are happy too.
Identify your distractions.. rate them..
You know you have done that already.. you have let go distractions that have no meaning.. they served their purpose..and were discarded when they were no longer useful..or created possible conflict.. gone.. justifiably..
Somethings we tried to let go..to prevent other issues..just to realize..
But ..now wondering if it can ever be what it was before we decided it was easier .. just to see..
Nothing has changed..except new acceptance. . Shocking!!!
People can change their mind..after seeing the facts..
No..not a distraction...much more than that.
Now..can you see.. can you accept?
Some people don't let change disrupt good relationships.
Usually that is a good thing.
Search out those that will help you..
Those that will remind you of your worth.
Your value.
Many see it..few will make you see it.
Most are distracted..
You need to see the reality verses the dream..
Yes..we all know the reality. Most choose the dream..
Some have no choice..the reality is everyday..and they accept any distraction to remove them from it..
The reality is the pain is real.
The pain can help define us.
It can weaken or strengthen us.
We can let people in that will help us not distract..
Well..maybe for a few minutes..but you will know those that wish to just distract and those that truly know and want to help..
Just open your eyes and heart. .
Even the young do this.. and they can see sincerity, when its real.
Sometimes they will accept it..
All this..is a reminder not to be so distracted that you overlook the ones that really care and can help.
It is a struggle we all face.
R 5/18/17
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