Ok..so it begins.

I had a text conversation to tonight.
More on a text from January.

I wont go into details, but I did wrong.
I moved house and home, and didnt notify someone who had stepped away, and basically cut ties and communication. For a couple years..
Now instead of being 30 minutes away, to 2000 miles away.
It is my fault that they could not make time to stop in.
Because if i had told them before we left, they would make time..
Never mind that it took more than year after we left to even notice we left...

Now it is my my fault..?

I stepped away.. Stayed out of it after I was no longer able to do more than suggest contact.

I have to make/take decisions to make my life easier.
I am only a guide if it is accepted. If not, I can only make suggestions. If it is ignored, what can I do..?
I always give choices to the people in my life.
My demands are for me only.

If you choose to ignore me, it is on you, if you choose to listen and follow me.. We will do it together.

I made a life changing decision.. A difficult decision, followed by weeks of extra work..effort and planning.
Many heartbreaking decisions were made..
Of course, money spent, and some things did not work as planned.. Some fell into place.. And it all happened..and eventually worked out.

My situation is similar, yet very different.
Many positive changes, some others will take time..

But, this is better for me and L.
She is much happier.
After a few bumps, I am too.

So, come at me, after all this, and blame me, because I didnt give you a chance to fix something you broke, then ignored for many years..
I tried when I had a say..
But now I am the bad guy?
I kept the same phone number up till this year..
To stay connected.. I informed you i cancelled.that number, and got shit for it.. Really?
I did not need to.. I wasnt hiding.. I just took an opportunity and left.. I asked if L wanted to come. She had a choice.

We struggled, and found our place..
And we continue to build on it..
We each have things we do..
Independant of each other..
And we are functional.. And growing.

I am old.. Getting older each day..
I have little to pass on, but we are making it matter.

Responsibility is being learned, and I try to encourage independance... And less depending on Dad..
Little by little it is working.

Life is very different now than it was years ago..when I was a young adult. But I will help where I can, while I can.

All in all..

It is not me or my fault that you decided to cut us out..
Me I get.. L.. No.. I dont get that.. Not at all.

The next phone number change.. Will be unlisted.

R